Whether due to environment, lifestyle, genetics, or medical history, there are actually thousands of Filipino couples who struggle with fertility.
But you don’t know that, do you? That’s because most of these couples don’t talk much about it. For young couples, infertility is a topic that causes heavy stress and anxiety. So most of them, understandably, shy away or even hesitate from seeking medical help.
We understand that reaching out professional help increases their chance of successfully getting pregnant. So, here are some fertility questions, along with their answers, that might help couples set things straight:
Question #1: Is my (male) partner at risk?
Due to popular culture and historical texts, most infertility issues have been automatically put to women but this is a myth. In fact, only about 30% of infertility cases are caused by women, says Dr. Alex Shteynshlyuger, Director of Urology at New York Urology Specialists. Men also need to take responsibility in keeping strong and healthy sperms that can withstand the environment of the uterus.
Infertility isn’t simply “between the man or the woman”. You need to step up as a couple to solve this problem. No one is at fault here, it’s just the way it happened. So in case of infertility issues, know the problem and the take the responsibility for it.
Question #2: How does my tobacco or drug use affect my fertility?
One of the most uncomfortable questions to ask to a fertility doctor is regarding tobacco, alcohol, and drug use. This is because the intake of these substances is due to our own doing.
Advertisers against cigarette smoking are speaking the truth: Tobacco use do not only subject yourself at risk of chronic diseases but it also lowers the quality of sperm health which affects the chances of successful pregnancy, says Dr. Shteynshlyuger.
The same is also true with performance-enhancing drugs like steroids. While these drugs treat all sorts of diseases and may even aid in muscle-building, regular will make conceiving very difficult. “Men who use anabolic steroids as part of workout regimen have a high rate of infertility caused by suppression of testosterone production in the testis by supplemental testosterone,” says Dr. Shteynshlyuger.
Question #3: Is my body type not good for conceiving?
Occasional masturbation will lessen sperm count but it isn’t something that you should be worrying about. Men have a 24/7 sperm factory and masturbating many times a day will not affect the quality of sperm in any way.
However, if you’re still concerned, suggest abstaining from masturbating during your fertile days, it might increase your chance of conceiving.
Question #5: Should I stop the sperm from leaking out? For how long?
Doing this will only make you look ridiculous! Your body doesn’t need those fluid because most of it aren’t sperm, in fact, they’re just fluids. Their sole purpose is to carry sperms inside.
Moreover, sperms swim fast that they could reach the fallopian tubes in less than 10 minutes! “The vagina naturally slopes backwards and the majority of ejaculate will be retained,” according to Dr. Michael Bohrer, MD, endocrinologist with Reproductive Medical Associates of New Jersey.
Question #6: Does having an orgasm help you get pregnant?
There are many theories regarding how the female orgasm can improve chances of pregnancy. But whether it could actually help you get pregnant or not is still unproven.
It might be helpful (it will definitely make trying more fun), but it’s not necessary. In fact, many women get pregnant even without having one. So don’t overthink it and have fun while trying!
Question #7: What’s the best sex position for conceiving?
Any position that can put sperm inside the cervix is proven effective. Even if the woman is on top, or if the sperm leaks out, as long as the sperm has been deposited inside, it’s just fine.
However, there are studies that suggest some sex position that increases the chances of pregnancy. Director of Georgetown University’s Institute for Reproductive Health, Dr. Victoria Jennings, MD, says that missionary position is the best. “There is not actual evidence for this, but it certainly can’t hurt.”
Some couples find conceiving difficult–even depressing due to anxiety, stress and external pressure. But once that little one starts to kick inside mom’s belly, the whole waiting ordeal will be worth it!